... she was struggling with & that her DH pointed out lacked reciprocation from the other side. She expressed that defeatist attitude of "I guess I'm just a poor judge of character! I always seem to attract these kind of people."

So, true to form, I let her know what I thought :-)

She is the kind of person (as many of us are) that when we meet new people we see the best in them. We accept them for who they are and could be. We enjoy hanging out, getting to know one another & creating memorable experiences.

That said, once we do get to know someone better ... who they REALLY are begins to surface. Sometimes this creates a deeper bond & the friendship continues to grow. Other times (like in this case) we realize that - while it was fun in the beginning, it's not so much fun anymore.

My wise advice to her...

"The poor judgment doesn't lie in the accepting this person as a friend. It lies in what decision you make once you have realized this isn't a good fit anymore."

Can I hear an "Om"

 :o)

But realistically, after investing so much time & effort into our friendships we rarely want to start over with someone new!

However, what I've learned after having to say goodbye to a toxic friendship - I'm a better person when I put my best interest first not theirs.

Chime in on any friendship topics you'd like!

And have a great Saturday!